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爱情新解(2) Marry the lifestyle

dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年)
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛We seek out our partners for different reasons. Some to reproduce, some for mutual support and some for fun…lots of people get married simply because “Hey, what’s otherwise?”

One day we went to Galiano, a small island only 2 miles wide and 18 miles long near Vancouver Island. Hopping through different art studios, I came across one with a huge blooming garden. The owner was not home, but the display room with beautiful ceramics was unlocked. We walked in and viewed his works. On a small desk, there was credit card machine for self-service purchases. Walking out, the garden was calling me. Peaking through the iron door, there were hundreds of blooming flowers, talking and sending out energy to me. In the far distance, I could see the dark blue ocean, calm and solitary. Suddenly a mystery arose in my heart. Who was this guy? What did he look like? What kind of person could create such a beautiful environment and be immersed in it? Was he handsome? Was he kind? One thing for sure, I could feel his passion for life.

I told Ray I fell in love with this guy, though I hadn’t had met him.

He stared at me for a second, said, “you’ve fallen in love with his lifestyle.”

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Lifestyle is way of living. We create our own reality by choosing what to believe, where to live, what to do, whom to associate with etc.…

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So?

So marry a lifestyle. Choose the one in harmony with yours and make sure it can broaden your horizon and bring new experiences to your life.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
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  • 枫下佳缘 / 情爱悠悠 / 爱情新解(2) Marry the lifestyle -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2003-12-28 {1501} (#1534219@0)
    • 支持，理解深刻 -summerlover(衣裙可以飘飘); 2003-12-28 (#1534265@0)
    • I 've decided that seek out a person for fun in 2004 and 2005, and for mutual support after that, who knows. I agree this sentence: make sure it can broaden your horizon and bring new experiences to your life. -howtimeflies(goodolddays); 2003-12-28 (#1534302@0)
    • good point. the question is: how can we find out the true lifestyle of a person before we get attached to a relationship? -beentaken(whatever); 2003-12-28 {99} (#1534314@0)
      things are not always what they seem, it may take a long time to put your affection in right place.
      • true. And sometimes affection developes between the people who have different life styles and before attach yourself with this person, you don't know if there's a harmony or not. -secretgarden(跳跳蓝莓); 2003-12-28 (#1534357@0)
      • it is not that difficult... -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2003-12-28 {668} (#1534402@0)
        1. Follow the money
        Money is one of the most scarce and important resources. You can tell a person by the way he spends his money. His way of managing his finance says a lot of him.

        2. Take a look at his external environment
        Where does he like to live? Quiet? Small? Big? With or without view. Since most of us don't have unlimited money, we learn to trade off. What does he give up to exchange for what? Is he neat or messy?

        3. Look into his social circle
        Whom he associates with reflects his taste.

        ......
        Above all, you have to know yourself.

        When it clicks, you know it. Your lifestyles don't need to be the same, but they need to be compatible.
        • you can hardly look into one's lifestyle, as you indicated in your message, until you are given chance to be close to him/her. should we make a scruitny in the first place? -beentaken(whatever); 2003-12-28 (#1534459@0)
          • 碰到有好感的人，就花点时间了解他：） -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2003-12-28 (#1534504@0)
        • guess to be materialized is not a bad thing, at least not always,. :-P -babyface(︽※︾天真时代︽※︾); 2003-12-28 (#1534660@0)
          • what do you mean by " to be materalized"? Or to be materialistic? If that is the case, that is not what I meant by "follow the money":)) -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2003-12-28 (#1534705@0)
            • maybe not.........maybe yes conclusively. :-) -babyface(︽※︾天真时代︽※︾); 2003-12-28 (#1534717@0)
    • How does your husband/boyfriend comment on your ideas? Does he agree with you? -xyz123(bluesky); 2003-12-28 (#1534340@0)
      • On this one? en...maybe partially. I produce many weird thoughts everyday and he is always my first audience.:-) -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2003-12-28 (#1534356@0)
        • Good, you couple are living a easy life. -xyz123(bluesky); 2003-12-28 {283} (#1534372@0)
          A joking for you, if you tell your husband, you had a boyfriend or you want to have a boyfriend, how he will react by guessing? Or opposite, he tells you that he had a girl friend or he want to have a girlfriend, how will you react? Please just forget it if you don't like the joke.
          • Well.... -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2003-12-28 {178} (#1534394@0)
            We chose to be 1 to 1 and we’ve developed an unspoken agreement of what’s appropriate and what's not. So far so good. We trust each other and we don't feel suffocated either.
            • good to you -xyz123(bluesky); 2003-12-28 (#1534447@0)
            • this means you do not have any responsibility for each other in life. -goingout(freshair); 2003-12-28 (#1534700@0)
    • it's not good. The better way is marry money, then you can make your own lifestyle.hehe -china_wei(cool_cool); 2003-12-28 (#1534369@0)
    • 我看到的一定只是花园，想知道的也最多是怎样能培出这样的花园而已。至于园主好不好看，怎样生活，还真不会想到那么多：)。你喜欢的，也许只是他/她的一个HOBBY：) -wade(wade); 2003-12-28 (#1534412@0)
      • Yes, everybody perceives the world differently...that is just one other perspective (from me):-) -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2003-12-28 (#1534498@0)
        • That is what I wanted to say :) -wade(wade); 2003-12-28 (#1534512@0)
    • Marriage is a contract, lifestyle is only one of the terms. -hipacific(crystalblue); 2003-12-28 (#1534461@0)
      • true :-) That is just one of my explanations -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2003-12-28 (#1534501@0)
    • I would agree with your points, If -goingout(freshair); 2003-12-28 {248} (#1534630@0)
      1. I were 15 years old, just like my son, he is talking with his (Maybe) girl friend right now, with full of romance, without any realities of future.
      2. I had million dollors. Althought I have half million, I still do not have same idea of love.
      • this idea lifestyle can happen only with few lucky guys in this world or in novels. -goingout(freshair); 2003-12-28 (#1534634@0)
    • :-). ur hubby agrees with ur conclusion? -babyface(︽※︾天真时代︽※︾); 2003-12-28 (#1534652@0)
      • #1534356 -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2003-12-28 (#1534708@0)
        • got ya. -babyface(︽※︾天真时代︽※︾); 2003-12-28 (#1534713@0)
    • Remember u were talking about a topic of "sophisticated". :-P -babyface(︽※︾天真时代︽※︾); 2003-12-28 (#1534720@0)
      • you mean I am getting more and more naive? very likely :P -dropoutinmiami(饺子-随波逐流2004年); 2003-12-28 (#1534735@0)
        • Nah, sorry,..........i feel this topic is just a similar one like that one. :-P -babyface(︽※︾天真时代︽※︾); 2003-12-29 (#1534809@0)

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