passion and soulmating are two contradictory concepts.

the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber)

a long-lived passion is as unthinkable as a flower that never withers -- it is against the law of nature.
one has to decide what he/she is really after -- some kind of passion to die for? or a peaceful marriage that fulfills it's life cycle without too much excitement or surprise.
you need enough guts to pursue the former, for you most likely will end up as a lonely soul who will not even have a grave-digger. and you need enough wisdom to test the later, for you can lose your bet of life at any time, for any reason, and to anybody.

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Last Updated: 2005-11-1

哎呀有点伤感 -chrisa(囡囡); 2005-11-1 (#2583525@0)

写的很好，很好。。。喜欢你这样的女子。。。。 -luoboyang(萝卜秧); 2005-11-1 (#2583611@0)

很喜欢你的文章，也看过了你的专辑。 -sweetcorn4u(SweetCorn4U); 2005-11-1 {202} (#2584024@0)

从你倾注深情的文字里，看见一颗纯洁如水晶的心。象你这样的性情女子，不是在为某一个人而是为真爱奋不顾身。学会忘记不值得的人。每一次爱过都会有收获，让那个不该得到你的爱的人错过，直到遇到，能带给你幸福的他。

怎样才能找到离离的专辑, 谢谢! -yellowtree(NiNi); 2005-11-1 (#2585159@0)

go to her profile by clicking her name, then you will see a link there. good luck. -sweetcorn4u(SweetCorn4U); 2005-11-4 (#2590219@0)

写的好，是POSITIVE的生活 -zizhe(字者); 2005-11-1 (#2584040@0)

天若有情天亦老。 -coast(三叶虫); 2005-11-1 (#2584089@0)

关于爱情的几句 -uptowngirl(afternoon tea); 2005-11-1 {360} (#2584446@0)

这么好的话，不要只对三叶虫说，他已然无憾了：） -lastman(陌上看烟); 2005-11-1 (#2584450@0)

很笨... 不太知道如何跟贴. 本来想说给楼主的. 谢谢. -uptowngirl(afternoon tea); 2005-11-1 (#2584462@0)

你的话不错，贴给我也一样。 -coast(三叶虫); 2005-11-2 (#2585480@0)
明白。谢谢。 -hattiehuang(离离); 2005-11-4 (#2589808@0)

说的和楼主一样好.只是有点不明白,既然灵魂相知而又有激情浪漫,为何不能成就一场婚姻?既然相爱为何不能相互妥协和牺牲?婚姻难道只有一种模式:平和,温暖,单调吗? -labelle(㊣完美的海盗); 2005-11-1 {74} (#2584539@0)
多少人敢于和自己倾心的人结合,走进一场有刺激,有挑战,但是又心心相知的婚姻呢?

爱情是可以不断的延续和伸展，这一点是不同于婚姻的。婚姻始终句号，没有进行时态，这恐怕是不愿选择它的原因吧。 -gone123(累到无力总会想吻你); 2005-11-1 (#2584563@0)
94, 俺咋觉得应该能，婚姻不该只有一种模式。 -spagetti(hot hot hot); 2005-11-1 {96} (#2584590@0)
而且这样的婚姻应该可以长久，因为灵魂相知好象很不容易找的到的。有时候，精神上的交流好象更为重要。
it is easy to go in a marriage like that. however, the problem is how long you can stay there and how ugly it will be if you try to get out. -the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber); 2005-11-1 (#2584655@0)

A life without marriage is not complete. A life without love is not worth living. -fiona_young(fiona); 2005-11-1 (#2584676@0)

there are more unhappy marriages than happy marriages -- it is hard to justify the necessity and benefit of marriage. -the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber); 2005-11-1 {215} (#2584831@0)
it is more of a personal choice than anything else. if someone does not have love or cannot give love for all his/her life than something is wrong with that person -- then he should question the meaning of his life.
Marriage is only good when you are with the right one...when you are feeling happy...otherwise you should give it a thought... -fiona_young(fiona); 2005-11-1 (#2584843@0)

then what is the purpose of marriage if you need a divorce every 3 or 5 years. -the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber); 2005-11-1 {153} (#2584853@0)
the fantasy of perfect marriage originates from the false assumption that people do not change.
the truth is that we change faster than our environment.

It's not because we change...it depends on if the two people change at same pace... -fiona_young(fiona); 2005-11-1 (#2584893@0)

what is the chance of two people change together at the same pace? it is a nice dream but does not work with statistics -the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber); 2005-11-1 (#2584976@0)

I know...it is sad though...that's why I think how you feel is most important, marriage does not necessarily brings your happiness.... -fiona_young(fiona); 2005-11-1 {153} (#2584990@0)
when you are in a relationship/marriage, cherish it...make efforts/compromises to make it work...because nobody knows what is going to happen tomorrow...

如果不能在里面呆长,说明并不是真正的灵魂相知.光有激情,没有相知,是不会长久的.所以我觉得相信婚姻应该是性与灵的合二为一的人应该慢慢寻找自己的终身伴侣. -labelle(㊣完美的海盗); 2005-11-1 (#2584692@0)

Agreed...can't imagine a marriage without love...it takes time...to meet the right one at the right time... -fiona_young(fiona); 2005-11-1 (#2584718@0)

it does not take long to meet the right one at the right time, for love but a projection of our subjective feeling and belief -- it has nothing to do with the object. -the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber); 2005-11-1 {130} (#2584859@0)
the problem is how to convince yourself that is the right person and how to keep such belief -- even when yourself keeps changing

You're just talking about yourself man. -labelle(㊣完美的海盗); 2005-11-1 (#2584906@0)

the virtue of philosophy is to make general rules out of individual experience -- only animal remains on individual level -the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber); 2005-11-1 (#2584967@0)

If he/she is not your soulmate, where is the passion from? -fiona_young(fiona); 2005-11-1 (#2584880@0)

a passionate person will project his/her passion onto a stone. an impassionate person will have no passion even with the most perfect person in the world -the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber); 2005-11-1 (#2584974@0)

passion and soulmating are two contradictory concepts. -the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber); 2005-11-1 {541} (#2584848@0)
a long-lived passion is as unthinkable as a flower that never withers -- it is against the law of nature.
one has to decide what he/she is really after -- some kind of passion to die for? or a peaceful marriage that fulfills it's life cycle without too much excitement or surprise.
you need enough guts to pursue the former, for you most likely will end up as a lonely soul who will not even have a grave-digger. and you need enough wisdom to test the later, for you can lose your bet of life at any time, for any reason, and to anybody.
关于爱情的几句（二） -uptowngirl(afternoon tea); 2005-11-2 {510} (#2585472@0)

nice comment。 -coast(三叶虫); 2005-11-2 (#2585478@0)

和自己倾心的人结合，需要太多的条件，不然怎会有“恨不相逢未嫁时”的遗憾呢？即便和自己倾心的人结合，未来是否一定倾心也未可知。否则怎会唱“爱情这东西我明白，但永久是什么？”人生总是很多遗憾的。 -amber(琥珀); 2005-11-1 (#2584749@0)

可没有爱情的婚姻从一开始就可怕，宁可一个人 -fiona_young(fiona); 2005-11-1 (#2584816@0)

就是啊,没有爱怎么有性和情,又怎么可以在婚姻里无怨无悔? -labelle(㊣完美的海盗); 2005-11-1 (#2584900@0)

people marry for money, green card, citizenship. only the lucky ones marry for love. or shall we say the dumb ones? -the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber); 2005-11-1 {278} (#2585021@0)
they still have sex, even if they marry for reasons other than love.
marriage in nowadays is more of a team of convenience than the consumation of love.
so you either lower your expectation to come to term with modern marriage. or you remain a purist and stay out of marriage.

你这人真有意思,强把自己所谓的PHILOSOPHY加到别人头上.可笑.我见过的MARRY FOR LOVE而且非常HAPPY的多得很,也有所谓的MARRY FOR CONVENIENCE 过得很局促悲哀,所以不需要你的指导.谢谢. -labelle(㊣完美的海盗); 2005-11-1 (#2585046@0)

I did not mean to impose anything on anyone. we just give comments (actually, our 2 cents) for free here. -the_dumb_one(dumb_and_dumber); 2005-11-1 {236} (#2585087@0)
I don't think in today's world there is anyone who seriously wantsto teach something or even to advise something to other people -- unless he is out of his mind. Even "teachers" on campus are only moderators of discussion sessions.

Agree! -sleeping_beauty(田野里的麦苗); 2005-11-4 (#2589754@0)

说得好，其实最难战胜的是 -casanova(大鼻子情圣); 2005-11-1 {7} (#2584545@0)

自己~！

说相忘，实难忘，心头点点伤。曾相守，终别离，思绪断愁肠。强欢颜，掩神伤，往事费思量。 -yuyellow(唯楚有才); 2005-11-1 (#2584609@0)

如此完美的杰作.是写给-------谁的?! -school(鱼群); 2005-11-1 (#2584632@0)

记忆力很好，侯德健这种人说过的话都记得 -howtobemarried(abcde); 2005-11-1 (#2584987@0)

差不多了，你快解脱了。不必相忘，何妨相望。 -fullmoonnight(圆月夜之狼行天下); 2005-11-2 (#2585851@0)

感谢所有爱的关注的路过的评论的又感触的人，一并谢过了，因为出差，自己的帖子也没能关注，看到支持和鼓励，非常－温暖！ -hattiehuang(离离); 2005-11-4 (#2589737@0)

"我都还会相信爱情，相信时间无涯的荒野里，会有一个人也在那里，为了相遇时候让我的爱得到我有如得到无价珍宝，我必得好好对待自己，勤奋努力，修身理性，使得自己容貌舒服，性情伶俐，温雅自然"。我喜欢你这段。perfect!!! -happysunshine(sunshine); 2005-11-4 (#2589834@0)

爱你 ^_^ -aquarius_flying(水瓶座); 2005-11-11 (#2604018@0)

LZ还是块璞玉。岁月会给你添加温润。;) -oweyouthemost(欠你的最多); 2005-11-12 (#2604428@0)

庄子的话把--相濡以沫何不两相望于江湖 -may2002beijing(may2002beijing); 2005-11-27 (#2630285@0)

1.岁月不饶人 2. 丰富就是好的。 -ra_95(小人-行尸走肉); 2005-11-27 (#2630456@0)

每每对爱情失望的时候，都会看到或读到让人感动的真情，让我相信今天的等待和执着都是值得的。 -hellosammi(谁说我不寂寞); 2005-11-29 (#2635413@0)

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