In a myriad of ways she tries to change him or improve him, she thinks her attempts to change him are loving, but he feels controlled, manipulated, rejected, and unloved. He will stubbornly reject her because he feels she is rejecting him. When a woman tries to change a man, he is not getting the loving turst and acceptance he actually needs to change and grow.
When I ask a room filled with hundreds of women and men they all have had the same experience: the more a woman tries to change a man, the more he resists.
The problem is that when a man resistes her attempts to improve him, she misinterprets his response. She mistakenly thinks he is not willing to change, probably because he does not love her enough. The truth is , however, that he is resistant to changing because he believes he is not being loved enough. When a man feels loved, trusted, accepted, appreciated, and so forth, automatically he begins to change, grow, and improve.