本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛My two cents after reading your posting couple of times (sorry I can not type Chinese now)
Play boy is everywhere, no matter what ethnic he is.
I feel you have quite a few assumptions/perceptions about him, for instance, he must have a lot of experience with ladies, he must take relationship too light, not serious (because he never been married and has a sports car)...
A lot of times, assumptions/perceptions are very damaging, especially in relationship, because the other person can be totally different from what we thought of
I also feel that you are easily influenced by the other people's opinion. It is a very good habit sharing your thoughts with friends, listening to their opinions, while keeping in mind that you should be in charge of your own opinion.
It really takes time and effort to get to know a person.
If I were you, I will
Convey the message to him about what you are looking for, long term serious relationship leading to a family, for instance.
Spend time with him, collect information about him, like why he is still single, whether he is considering settling down, how about his personality.
The concept in this society, physical attraction is a very important aspect of the relationship, so is emontional connection. Ask yourself, do u really enjoy the time with him, are you very talkive while with him, how about him? Does he have a lot to share with you? Of course it takes sometime to be in this stage, but things should move towards to this direction. Sometimes physical attraction comes in first, sometimes emotion connection comes in first. And I am sure you know your limits.
You have all valid concerns, but without getting to know him more, how you can validate or eliminate your concerns?
So be brave, girl and, be yourself!更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net